It has not come across any Indian woman who knows what orgasm is. In fact, in the indian language there is no word equal to `orgasm’. The Indian woman has never known orgasm. Even the Western woman has started to know about orgasm just thirty years ago. It was due to the research of psychologists, psychoanalysts and psychiatrists. That opened a new door to women’s pleasure.The exploration is the exhilaration!! The edge of Ecstasy. Take time, explore ,experience, anticipate. It’s not always about the climax. When you’re done you’ve orgasmed many times
For centuries they did not know what orgasm was, so naturally, they were disgusted with sex. They thought that the man was simply using them because they were not getting any enjoyment out of it. But the reason was that the man has not been allowing them to have an orgasm.
In the very primitive days he must have become aware that a woman can have multiple orgasms, and a man can have only one orgasm. So a man is not competent to fulfill a woman. Either he has to call his friends, or he has to get some hormonal injections, because a woman ordinarily is capable of having six orgasms one after the other. It is better not to let her know that she is capable of any orgasm. It can be avoided, because the woman’s vagina is insensitive. It has to be insensitive because it will be giving birth to a child. If it was sensitive, the birth of a child would have immensely increased pain; it is insensitive and still there is pain.
So the woman’s orgasm has nothing to do with the vagina, it is just a reproductive mechanism. Her orgasm is not dependent on a man making love through the vagina — that is good for reproduction. She has a separate part, just a very small part — the clitoris — which is not in the way of man’s making love to her. Unless the man understands the physiology of the woman, which ordinarily no man understands …
Man is the only inexperienced lover in the world, because neither does he have any experience before your marriage nor does the woman have any experience before the marriage. This is a very strange world. When two people are going to live together for their whole lives they don’t have any experience, they don’t know what to do. The woman’s clitoris is the organ which gives her pleasure, and it is not part of her vagina. Man’s ejaculation is just two minutes or three minutes at the most. And he has to be quick because if you are committing sin, commit it quickly. Don’t do it too long, otherwise, remember hellfire.
Unless a man understands the physiology of a woman, which he has never bothered … her whole body is sexually sensitive. Man’s whole body is not sexually sensitive. The man’s sexuality is very local; it is just in his sexual machinery. The woman’s whole body is sexual, and unless the man plays with her whole body and arouses her body — that is foreplay … No man wants to do it, because it will take too long, and one has to be quick before God comes in. So no more foreplay!
Missionary position, in which the beauty is under, and the beast is on top. The poor woman has to lie down almost dead, and only then is she considered to be a lady. Only prostitutes enjoy. No woman of honor will groan or moan, or start gibberish or screaming out of joy. So she has been told to be completely dead while the man is making love. It is one-sided love. The other side is completely dead; the other side has not been aroused.
The people who understand sexology say the woman should be on top so that she has more possibility of movement, and the man should be underneath her so he can remain silent, because his ejaculation happens in just two minutes! If he remains silent he can manage twenty minutes or thirty minutes. A woman needs at least ten minutes to become aroused.
This disparity is there, and it can be fulfilled only if the man understands that the woman is not just a mechanism to be used. She is also a soul, equally alive, and has all rights to pleasure just as you have. So foreplay is needed, and the man should be underneath and the woman should be on top.
The man should lie down like a lady, and the woman should be a real rascal! Then only is there a possibility that they come to orgasm at the same time. When they both start throbbing and getting out of control, that is the moment when they know what sex contains. It is not only a reproductive organ, it is also an organ of immense pleasure. And that pleasure, according to me, gives you the first glimpse of meditation, because the mind stops, time stops. For those few moments, there is no time, and there is no mind, you are just utterly silent and blissful. because there was no other way for man to find out that if there is no mind and no time, you enter into a blissful state. Except for sex, there was no other possibility for the mind to understand that there was some way of going beyond the mind, beyond time. It was certainly sex that gave the first glimpse of meditative.
vinodhan,